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Reception Cash Bar	Q : My fianc'e and I are not drinkers and we really don't want a whole lot of people being drunk at our reception. So my question is, is it ok to have a cash bar at a wedding reception?
	A : I certainly understand your position. You have a couple of choices. A cash bar is acceptable. You may want to make mention of this if you are providing a printed menu. Another idea is unless you and your fianc'e are apposed to drinking, provide each table with a bottle of wine, or one glass of wine (or champagne) per guest to toast the Bride and Groom. Your guests may purchase their own drinks after that. If you are totally opposed to having alcoholic beverages at your reception, don't feel that you need to. Although not common, it is done. It is your wedding, and one should not go against personal convictions if it will take enjoyment out of your special day.
Forgetful Guest	Q : We were recently married and after opening all of our gifts and envelopes we noticed that we didn't open a gift from one of our friends. She is a close friend but not a best friend. She also brought a guest. They ate and drank and even took home some cake that they absolutely loved. I've known her for just a year now but I couldn't imagine anyone coming without even a card of congratulations... Should I say something or let it go? And how would someone say something without sounding greedy for a gift?
	A : Dear Slighted, Unfortunately, even nice people who have become close friends don't always know what is right and proper. You, (nor I ) could imagine attending a friends wedding without bringing a gift. However, it happens. You have two choices. First, if this lack of courtesy is "out of character" on this friends part, you may want to send her a note thanking her for attending your wedding celebration. If she had planned on bringing a gift, and forgot it or it was misplaced, she might think it odd that you did not mention it in your note and ask you about it. If not, she'll appreciate the fact that you sent her a thank you note ackowleging her attendence and support. Option two, forget about it. If she and her guest came empty handed, you still had the emotional and physical support of your new friend. This can be more important than a tangable gift itself, and for your ongoing friendship sake, you may need to look at it this way. Nowhere does etiquette stipulate it mandatory to bring a gift, but merely is a courteous and generous gesture on a guest's part. Thank you for your question, and best wishes on your new life together as husband and wife. Cordially, Jill-Marie
	Q : How can we handle nosy guests who want to know our honeymoon plans?
	A : Keep in mind that often people are just interested in your new life together, starting with interest in your honeymoon. When asked, keep it light and upbeat, and say, “It’s a secret for now, but we'll let everyone know when we return".