Engaged, Now What?
words by | Eve Green
He asked and you said yes! Congratulations! You’re about to embark on one of the most exciting times of your life. Planning your wedding should be a process that both you and your fiancé enjoy. Start off right with our comprehensive list of what you need to do after getting engaged!
1. Enjoy the moment before sharing the news
Before you make it “Facebook Official,” take some time to enjoy this moment with your new fiancé before declaring your announcement to the world. Of course you should call your Mom, but keeping it relatively quiet for a few days may make your magical moment all the more special. The onslaught of well wishes from everyone you know is exciting, but it can also be a little overwhelming. Be prepared for a barrage of questions about your wedding, from when and where, to “Have you found your dress?” All this before you’ve even had time to think about it. Take this chance to breathe, gather your emotions and most of all, enjoy this first of many joyous moments.
2. Insure your ring and get it sized
A top priority after getting engaged is to get your ring properly sized to fit your finger and getting your ring insured. Protecting your ring from loss, damage, or theft should be a top priority in the weeks following your engagement. While your ring is priceless, it is a large investment, and you will want to be able to replace it if something unthinkable happens to it.
3. Think about what type of wedding you want
It’s finally time to put your secret wedding board on Pinterest to use! Or, for the rare bride who hasn’t considered what their ideal wedding style is, start browsing the Web, Pinterest, and bridal magazines to help you begin to get an idea of what you and your fiancé like. The choices can be overwhelming, but to help you get started, consider whether your wedding style is formal or casual, small or large, and unique or traditional. Some couples opt to have a “themed” wedding while others focus instead on a color scheme and their favorite decorative elements to help carry the wedding’s style through.
4. Get a wedding datebook
You may already have a datebook or utilize your iPhone calendar, but trust us, you are going to want one place to hold all your wedding related details – from the date and time of your first fitting to fabric and stationary samples. Your trusty wedding datebook will be by your side throughout the planning process, helping you keep all your details organized and in one place, from vendor brochures and business cards to the dates of bridal fairs and cake tastings.
5. Set a budget
A wedding of any size is going require a big investment, but setting your budget early on (and sticking to it) is a vital step. What will your funding resources be? Will you and your fiancé pay for the entire event, or will one or both sets of parents chip in? This is also when you need to start saving! One thing we know from experience, is that you can have a gorgeous and meaningful wedding on any budget.
6. Start thinking about a guest count
This is where you decide whether you want a small, average, or large wedding. To give you a general idea, 75 guests would constitute a small wedding, while 150 guests could be considered average, and 200 or more guests is usually considered large. In addition to your budget, your guest count will become an indicator of what you can afford. Guest counts on the larger end will end up costing you more. When it comes to cutting the budget, most couples turn to their guest list first. Nevertheless, you know the saying, the more the merrier your day will be!
7. Consider hiring a wedding planner or day of coordinator
Hiring a wedding planner is a considerable investment, but if you don’t want to take on the brunt of your wedding planning, a professional wedding planner can be a blessing. Wedding planners have insight, experience, and a tried and true network of professionals that will help you create the wedding of your dreams. If you want to be in charge of the show, consider hiring a day-of coordinator to save your (and your mother’s) sanity and get you through the day as smoothly as possible.
8. Pick your venue
Your venue will be the backdrop of your wedding and will set the mood for the entire day. A venue has to check off a lot of items on your list, such as location, style, and whether it can hold all your guests. Venues book up very fast and far in advance, so if you have fallen in love with a venue, make it a priority to book it as soon as possible. The availability could very well decide your wedding date.
9. Set a date
Hiring a wedding planner and securing your wedding venue often determines your wedding date. But it’s also important to consider which season you hope to be married in, and if your closest friends, family, and wedding party are available on the chosen date. Once your date is set it will also determine the length of your engagement!
10. Hire priority vendors
Many vendors book one year to 18 months in advance (if not more!). Once you find vendors you like, review the contracts, make the deposits, and book them as soon as possible. After you have secured your venue, focus on booking priority vendors that are high in demand, such as photographers, music (bands or djs), and florists. After you have secured your priority vendors, start thinking about the professionals whose creations will make your day uniquely special, such as cakes, favors, invitations and other wedding stationery, hair and makeup, and so many more!
Congratulations to you and your fiancé, have a wonderful engagement and check back here more advice and ideas for your wedding!