Why you should do a boudoir shoot before your wedding (and it’s probably not why you think)
words by // Lindsay Freeman
Lindsay Nicole Studio | Toledo Ohio Boudoir Photographer
As a boudoir photographer, I work with all kinds of women. They are single women, engaged women, married women, and divorced women. Some have professional careers, some are stay at home moms and some are somewhere in between. Even though each one is different, I’ve noticed that they all have one thing in common; they are all just trying to do their best. In a world that is constantly telling us we are not good enough, that we need to change or live up to someone else’s “best version” of themselves, it can be hard to navigate true self-confidence and self-love.
Leading up to your wedding can be one of the most exciting and stressful times. I know because I’m right there with you. My wedding is in May and literally, the only New Years Resolution I wrote down was:
“I want to feel beautiful on my wedding day.”
I understand when planning a wedding, many of the decisions that are made come back to this one goal. And that’s where boudoir comes in.
Sure, many of my clients book a session so they can have a sexy gift to give their spouse on their wedding day, and that is definitely a bonus of these sessions, but *spoiler alert* it is not the main reason I think any woman should have a boudoir session.
Boudoir for me is ALL about self-confidence. Imagine what it would feel like walking into your wedding day feeling like the badass babe you are. Not wondering if people will think you are beautiful or if your spouse-to-be likes your dress. Boudoir sessions are the perfect choice for the bride who wants to take time to value herself. To do something outside of her comfort zone in the hopes of gaining something she may have never truly had: self-love. Or in plainer terms: the ability to look in the mirror and actually LOVE what you see.
A boudoir shoot is personal. It’s not like an engagement session where the focus is on you AND your partner. This session is all about you. It’s about seeing yourself in a real and vulnerable way and noticing parts of you that you hadn’t before. Like the way your lips part when your eyes are closed or the way the small of your back dips down just right or the way your hair falls over your face when you are laughing. It’s seeing 50+ images of yourself in a row and not being drawn to look at your “imperfections” but instead, falling in love with your body in a way you didn’t know was possible.
A boudoir shoot at any age or time in your life is beneficial but before your wedding day, arguably the biggest day of your life, it is so impactful. This is an opportunity for you to embrace your own beauty so that when you walk into your wedding day, you are already wearing the best accessory of them all, self-love. It won’t matter if you chose the wrong dress, didn’t lose the weight or if you’ve had an eyebrow wax disaster because you are a stunning, beautiful woman and you actually believe this.
My biggest advice would be to find a photographer that understands this. That knows how important a boudoir session truly is. That it can be a make or break self-confidence situation, because trust me, it is. You deserve to feel beautiful on your wedding day and a boudoir session is a really great way get there.
Oh, and the images do make for a really great gift.